I have a perspective on men that most women will never have.

For five years, I ran one of the most successful agencies in the country, handling over 10,000 clients—powerful, high-income men, leaders in business, politics, and society. In this world, men were honest in ways they would never be with their wives, girlfriends, or even their closest friends. Because here, there was no judgment.

And after seeing this many men behind closed doors, here’s what I can tell you:

✅ Most of them were married.
✅ Most saw nothing wrong with what they were doing.
✅ Most still truly loved their wives.

I know that last part angers women.

Women want to believe that love and loyalty are the same thing. But they’re not—at least not for men.

Men & Women Don’t See Cheating the Same Way

This is the part most women struggle to understand.

Women cheat emotionally. They bond first, then stray when they feel disconnected. When a woman cheats, it usually means she’s checked out of the relationship.

Men cheat physically. It’s not personal. It’s not emotional. They can love their wife and still sleep with someone else.

That sounds insane to most women. It sounds disrespectful. It sounds like betrayal.

But men compartmentalize. Their brain separates sex and love in a way that most women can’t comprehend.

That doesn’t make it right.
That doesn’t mean you have to accept it.
But understanding this truth will change how you date and how you set your boundaries.

Why HIGH-VALUE Men Cheat (And Why Broke Men Don’t Have the Same Choices)

Women assume that men who pay for services must be low-value. That they must be losers who can’t get women any other way.

But that’s not true.

Rich men have options. They don’t have to cheat with a co-worker. They don’t have to risk their personal life for an affair.

They can keep their home life stable while getting their needs met in a way that never spills over.

They see it as discreet, transactional, and problem-free.
They’re not looking for another relationship.
They’re not looking for a woman to complicate their lives.

They are paying for the woman to leave.

And that is something many women don’t understand.

What Women Need to Stop Doing

🚫 Taking cheating personally.
It’s not because you weren’t good enough, pretty enough, or exciting enough. It’s not about you at all.

🚫 Thinking they can “fix” it.
Men don’t cheat because something is necessarily wrong at home. They cheat because they can. It’s about opportunity, not lack of love.

🚫 Assuming all men cheat.
Not all men cheat. But the ones who don’t have done the inner work to be disciplined and emotionally evolved. It’s a conscious decision, not just because they love their partner.

The Harsh Truth (And What You Can Do With It)

I’m not saying you should accept cheating.
I’m not saying betrayal is okay.

I’m saying understand it.

🔹 If loyalty is important to you, choose a man who has done the inner work.
🔹 If a man cheats and that’s a dealbreaker, walk away—but don’t take it as a reflection of your worth.
🔹 If you want to keep your peace, don’t waste time trying to change someone who was always going to cheat.

Women try to fill every gap in a man’s life. But the truth is, some gaps will always be there.

And the smartest thing a woman can do? Decide what she will and won’t tolerate—and move accordingly.